I wanted to tell you about my sister-in-law, Tracy, who is a mother that without doubt deserves to be one of your mothers of the week this month. I don’t want to tell too much detail of things without her permission but she has suffered through more than any mother should ever should ever have to live through. She has my beautiful nieces and nephews. Again,without saying too much without her permission, she has had unimaginable births/deliveries that no mother should ever have to go through. Tracy devotes her entire life to taking care of others, from being on the board of every activity her kids do, helping out everywhere she can, and she also runs an amazing organization where backpacks of food are given to the children in school in the county in need, so they will not go hungry between their free lunch Friday and free breakfast Monday. And I know she has received a Kaleb Kares (Viviana’s Memory Box) box and loved it very much.
We (Kaleb Kares Team) reached out to Tracy and she gave us permission to share Declan’s story:
“In 2014 we found out that we were expecting our next child. We were so very excited, but after experiencing losses both in the first trimester and the second trimester, we were being cautiously optimistic. Things were going well and after we made it through the first trimester hearing only great things about our baby, we shared our wonderful news. We had weekly appointments to monitor our baby’s health and were expecting another great result. Then on October 17th, 2014 we went to a routine 20 week appt and found out that our sweet boy’s heart had stopped beating. We were absolutely devastated. On Sunday, October 19th I went in to be induced to deliver our stillborn son. After 13 hours of labor our Declan Nicholas was born weighing just 7 ounces and measuring 10 inches in length. Declan had the most amazing hands and feet, something that I will never forget about him, they were absolutely perfect in every way. While we were so scared to go through the process of delivering a stillborn baby, the day, in our eyes couldn’t have been more perfect. It was very calm and relaxed. We were able to spend as much time with our son as we wanted and we are grateful for every moment of that day. We were given a Viviana’s Memory Box that day. It was very comforting, especially for me. There was a photo album, a journal (which I still write in often when I want to tell him something), a knit blanket and many other things. I keep everything from his pregnancy and after in the box, to remember him. That box is everything for me, especially in the days following the birth of Declan.”
We will be posting a few special stories for the month of May. We are honoring all of our bereaved mothers with our “Mother of the Week”. The month of May is hard for so many woman that have experienced a pregnancy or newborn loss.
Do you know someone that should be honored? Simply message us their story on facebook with a picture. You can nominate a friend, your wife, daughter, or yourself.